You are in danger while in the presence of a person who has abused you. Having abused you once, he or she will likely do it again. Just as you plan for safety and escape in case of fire, you can plan for safety and escape in case of a violent outburst.

Become familiar with the ways in and out of your home in an emergency.

During an argument avoid situations that position your abuser between you and an exit.

Set up a code with trusted neighbors. For example, a light flicking on and off means call 911.

In the event that you decide to leave your abuser (and your home), planning ahead can help make your escape safer and less inconvenient. Pack a bag, hide it at a friend's house, and make sure it includes:

Extra set of keys to house and car

A little money if possible and change for a pay phone

List of phone numbers of people and places that might assist you like friends, relatives, doctors, lawyers, etc.

Important papers for you and your children: birth certificates, social security cards, driver's licenses, ADC/SSI/Medicaid cards, copy of lease, copies of No Violent Contact and Protective Orders, etc.

Financial information (credit card and bank account numbers)

Any medications you or your children need on a regular basis

REMEMBER!

Friends and family are your most valuable resource. Ask those you trust, in advance, if they might be able to take you in for a few days in an emergency, but note that this is one of the first places that your abuser will likely look for you.

Avoid long distance calls if possible. Long distance numbers can be traced.

Advise your school system, court, and welfare office not to give out any information on you, your children, or your whereabouts.